How to deepen your voice and talk like a manly man

I’ve noticed a lot of nerds, including myself sometimes, tend to talk in a pinched, nasal tone. This is something that women do not find attractive. Women like deep, manly voices. You don’t have to sound like Darth Vader, but you do need some depth and some bass in your voice.
If you have a high or nasal voice, don’t fret. It’s not something you’re born with, but a bad habit that you can change. All you have to do is stop using your nose so much and let the rest of your vocal apparatus do some of the work. Here’s what I’ve learned from celebrity vocal coach John Deaver:

Sound is produced by air from your diaphragm being pushed across the vocal chords, but there are three main places where sound can vibrate, and all of these play a role in shaping the sound:

  1. The nose and sinuses.
  2. The mouth.
  3. The chest and throat.

Your first instinct might be to say “Ok, I’ll push all the sound into my throat and talk with a really deep voice”, but that would either make you sound fake or stupid. This is because you can’t articulate the vowel sounds with the throat.

The trick is to find a balance between all three. The chest resonates and provides depth and fullness, the mouth provides clear articulation and a natural buzzing vibration, and the nose and sinuses provide the occasional high pitch or nasal consonant.
Here is an exercise that you can do every day to retrain your voice:

  1. Start with a low hum to get the feel of chest resonance. Do this for a couple of minutes to get warmed up.
  2. Pinch your nose and talk or read out loud. You’ll feel when the sound starts trying to go up into your nose, and you’ll be able to pull it back toward the throat.

Do this every day for a few minutes, ideally in the morning, since your voice is naturally lower at that time, and it’ll help you set the tone for the rest of the day. Then, throughout the day, listen to yourself talking, and try to subtly move the sound away from the nose and sinuses and more towards the chest and throat. Over time, this will become a habit, and it will sound completely natural without you having to think about it.

9 thoughts on “How to deepen your voice and talk like a manly man

  1. I’m female and I actually happen to like nerdy nasal voices. I think they’re really cute. Deep voiced men scare me.. But that’s just me

    • Good for you, Adi! If only all women were like you! The thing about dating is that it’s a numbers game, so you want to make yourself as attractive to as many people of the opposite sex as possible. It’s much easier and smarter to change little things about yourself than sit at home complaining that only 2% of women like nerdy nasal voices.

      • I have to disagree, if you just go around dating everyone it won’t work out. Humans need to be paired with those whom match them well, if you change yourself to get others to like you then you will attract the wrong type of person, and you’ll have to make a facade all the time when around them, and because you won’t be yourself it will eventually end. Dating is not a numbers game, it’s trying to find someone you match well with, which is a hard thing to do because people are so different. What always worked for me was not thinking about dating and just doing what I like, invariably you will find someone that likes the same things as you when doing that.

  2. Thanks alot but what of somone that has a bass voice already and yet still wants to deepen it more.. Is this practice also recommended for him?

    • Why would you want to make your voice deeper? Do you want to scare Adi?

      But seriously, if you’re insecure about your voice despite the fact that you already have a bass voice, you might want to work on tone and articulation instead of pitch. Find a good vocal coach who can help you. You should only need a couple of lessons to figure out what to change and come up with some simple exercises to correct any weird pronunciations or vocal tics.

  3. Good stuff. I’d never heard of John Deaver before… but Roger Love (also a celebrity voice coach) says similar things.

    Roger Love has a good voice program that I was doing for a bit (15 min of practice everyday) awhile back.

    I guess our voice isn’t something we tend to think about as a skill, but it is something we can actually improve through practice and habit (much like any skill).

    • That’s a great insight, William. I’ll check out Roger Love. Lately I’ve been doing Per Bristow’s “Sing With Freedom” series. It’s more for singers, though.

      • Cool. Yeah, I think singing practice works for improving your speaking voice as well (especially if its forcing you to use your range… from chest voice, to middle voice, to head voice…)

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