Last week, I talked about how powerful limiting beliefs are, and how they can warp your perception of reality.
But how do you recognize your own limiting beliefs? And more importantly, how do you eliminate them?
The problem with limiting beliefs is that they’re so deep inside your head, it’s hard to recognize that they’re erroneous. It’s like asking a buggy program to debug itself – it doesn’t know what the bugs are.
Because it’s so difficult to tell what’s a limiting belief and what isn’t, we’re better off looking for the ones that are holding us back. These ones present themselves as the excuses that you’re using to keep yourself from doing the things you want to do.
Also, look for any negative pre-conceptions you have about yourself. “I” statements that seem charmingly self-deprecating, like:
- I’m disorganized.
- I’m not good at talking to girls
- I’m not the kind of guy who’s sociable.
- I’m just naturally fat and overweight.
It’s important to realize that some of these might be partially true – maybe you actually do have a slow metabolism, or you’re a bit introverted, or whatever. We still want to discard the limiting belief because it’s not useful. Conversely, you could have a false belief that turns out to be very useful. Imagine you believed you were great at talking to girls. You’d constantly be doing it, and pretty soon you’d get good at it because of all the practice. But even before that point, your confident body language would open plenty of doors.
So, for each belief/excuse/self-perception, apply the following process as described here:
1. Write it down.
2. Think about all the things that this belief is holding you back from (whether it’s true or not).
3. Think of an example that contradicts this belief. Has there ever been a time where you behaved as if this belief were false?
4. Adopt the opposite belief. Meditate on it daily. Repeat it to yourself over and over. Replace all the negative self-talk with positive self-talk. It will take a long time for you to fully internalize this positive self-talk, so in the meantime,
5. Change your behavior. It’s easier to act your way into a different attitude than to think your way into a new behavior.
Repeat this process on a regular basis. Just like the most complex software is never fully bug-free, your brain will never be fully free of erroneous assumptions and bogus limiting beliefs.
Stay sexy, my friends.